Posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on December 6, 2008, at 22:05:16
In reply to Re: I am puzzled » SlugSlimersSoSlided, posted by muffled on December 6, 2008, at 20:27:33
Muffled,
I do believe in DID, I have friends who have it and I do understand DID.
But what I do believe that all ages in your life you need certain things emotionally, and age doesn't separate different needs. We all need love, security, and for someone to help take care of ourselves, for example, but that doesn't have to be only "child" needs. When I speak of ego states, I am not talking about DID. There are many ego state theories and they are not all related to DID. They are two different things, maybe they get confused with each other.I just don't see the "little me" and the "adult me" as 2 separate things. I believe our needs are universal from person to person, from age to age and are contained within the same body for the entire lifetime. In other words what you needed emotionally as a child isn't all that different from what you need as an adult.
To me DID, can relate to many separations of time during a lifetime but the needs you need as a child are usually very similar to the needs of an adult. So if as an adult, you feel the need to be held, it doesn't mean it is a child ego state. It is just a need we all have our entire lifetime. Hopefully you are also held by someone as an adult. So wanting to be held isn't just a child's need it is a person's need no matter what age.Don't know if that helps what I am thinking relating to my therapy. When I talk using simpler words, it isn't me regressing, it is just simpler words, because adults use simpler words too.
So I don't believe in "little girl needs" because they are not all that different than my woman needs.
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