Posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on November 30, 2008, at 16:45:13
In reply to How Come When You Sit Still You Cry Cause Not Dive, posted by Phillipa on November 30, 2008, at 15:32:10
I think you dealing with 2 people's issues, his and yours. You can't control how he is, while I think it does everyone some good to get out and do something once in awhile, not everyone is like this.
But what is important is that you need to get out, and while it isn't as much fun by yourself, you should do it anyway. You have needs too. I didn't even know you were married, so I don't know much about him and how your marriage is.
The thing I eventually had to learn when my marriage went to poop was that I had to do things for myself because he wasn't going to. There has to be some hobby or something of yours that you could meet someone. Or try volunteering, as low as I feel sometimes, it help me to help others, it gives me a purpose. With your medical background, I am sure there are tons of organizations that would love to have your help.
A friend of mine who is a retired nurse helps out at a women's shelter doing a lot of things, but she gives free blood pressure screenings.
Maybe it is something you might like, not too intense, but it will get out to talk to others. Plus you can do it as little as 3 hours a week.