Posted by DAisym on October 15, 2008, at 19:32:53
In reply to Re: talking about csa *trigger* » antigua3, posted by LostPirate on October 15, 2008, at 19:12:50
I think sharing the details is important to the healing for *most* people. One of the things that has happened for me is that by giving the details, my therapist has been able to reframe some of the shame I feel.
It sometimes helps to set the stage. I often have my memories from the ceiling - looking down at what is happening. My therapist asked a long time ago if he could sit up there with me, and now he will ask me what I'm seeing. Usually I can describe what is happening but sometimes I'm just in it and I have to tell him what I feel because I don't have words for it. This can be very hard because often I'll turn to him for the words - "tell me what it is called that he is doing!" but when he names it (rape) I fall apart. It took us a long time to be able to work together like this though - we went slow for a very long time.
I agree with what Antigua said about afterwards. Telling stuff is often followed with a tsunami - it sneaks up on you but boy is it painful.
I'm glad you trust your therapist. I'm sorry you have these awful memories.
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