Posted by Lucie Lu on July 9, 2008, at 19:24:11
In reply to My therapist makes me sad, posted by no_rose_garden on July 8, 2008, at 23:31:09
Rose, welcome to the board and hope you find some help or at least support here. Your painful feelings are very recognizable to many on this board, and you should also look through past posts and check the archives - they can offer you some more info and maybe even some useful insghts.
Without knowing more, it is hard to get a sense of what is really going on between you and your T. It seems extremely unlikely that he would want to stop or to refer you because he "doesn't want you." I doubt very much that he sees it in such terms. It's much more likely that he is thinking only in terms of getting you the help you need and deserve. If he really does care about you, and I'm sure he does, then he only wants what's best for you - even if that means sending you to someone else if he thinks he can't help.
What is less clear to me is *why* he feels he can't help you. So my first question would be, what kind of therapy is he doing? Like cognitive, behavioral, attachment-oriented, psychodynamic etc? Is it short-term - are there expectations that the sessions would only last for a certain time frame? Or long-term, open-ended? It would be helpful to know what your joint intial expectations were. Did you two work out a contract (not legal - just an agreement between you about what and how your therapy would be conducted)?
Understanding his frame of reference as a T (his orientation, your therapy plan) would be very helpful in trying to sort these things out.
Sorry you are hurting :(