Posted by lucie lu on July 7, 2008, at 5:18:34
In reply to major transference and terminating therapy, posted by healing928 on July 6, 2008, at 20:47:22
Healing - first welcome to the board! And second, can feel for what you are going through. So many of us, myself included, wrestle with strong feelings for our T's. If you read through the recent posts and look through archives under "love" or something related, I'm sure many things will sound familiar to you. So don't have answers for that but you certainly are in good company.A couple of other questions - what kind of therapy(s) do your first and second Ts do? And is it finances that would keep you from extending your sessions with your T? Since he has given you a diagnosis of BPD he may be trying to indicate that it would be useful to take an in depth look or approach to your current everyday problems and that they may be influenced by your past. That may be very difficult to do in such a short period of therapy. But different T's use different approaches. It would not be unusual for a psychodynamic or analytically oriented therapy to take one or more years in such a case where a more cognitive approach might be tried in a shorter period of time if it is specifically targeted in that direction. There are lots of different approaches, including dialectic, that can be helpful for someone wth such a background. And there are plenty of us on this board with BPD traits who are trying to work them through.
Please realize that BPD is merely a shorthand description of traits and behaviors that you already exhibit (at least in the opinion of whoever makes that diagnosis). It is not a disease that now you will have to deal with - you already are dealing with it.
Anyway, welcome again to the board and look forward to hearing more from you!
Take care, Lucie Lu
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