Posted by raisinb on June 19, 2008, at 18:48:34
In reply to ya I know, posted by Happyflower on June 19, 2008, at 13:33:56
"Do all people have a bad side that hurts others?"
Yes, in my opinion, they do, unfortunately. I know that I do. Inside I am a vulnerable child, but outside I can be angry and distant when things are scary for me. And similarly, other people have qualities that hurt me, because of their own flaws, and my unique triggers.
The only thing I can think of is to try and keep the whole relationship in your head, and to support and care about yourself when you're hurt by someone else. Don't make their failings yours. (This is good advice, I wish I could do it more often :)).