Posted by seldomseen on May 9, 2008, at 7:06:33
In reply to looks like I quit therapy today, posted by raisinb on May 8, 2008, at 19:55:21
I am continually amazed when I read about therapists who deny our perceptions of them. Of course, some component of these perceptions could be resistance to therapy - that's something we have to decide for ourselves.
By and large, however, our ability to read people and gauge even the slightest shift in mood is one of the gifts (at least that's how I view it) of childhood abuse. I mean - good lord! - for some of us our ability to survive may have been predicated on our keen sense of detecting the moods, feelings etc... of our abusers. It told us when to lay low, when to get out and when to get ready for it.
How can psychotherapists, of all people, so readily dismiss this ability that so many of us have? Frankly, it just boggles the mind.
My therapist and I were just talking about this very thing this week. I told him that he was better in the mornings and that I was worried that the sadness of the day had accrued by the afternoon.
For his own safety he seemed to be very subdued in the afternoon/evening. He admitted that he sometimes got very tired lately since his father died. He appreciated me noticing that.
We talked a bit about what he's going through and really connected throughout the enitre session. Of course I've seen him for 8 years and I think there is a level of trust there between us.
I guess it comes down to the fact that we recognize that they are flawed, sometimes seriously, even when they don't want to admit we are right.
I'm sorry you are going through this too Raisin. I wish you luck as you listen to your instincts and progress through this.
Maybe your T will come through in the end (mine did). Maybe you both just need a break. I don't know.
Take good good care.
Seldom.
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