Posted by estrellita on May 4, 2008, at 5:33:22
In reply to Re: Getting into and out of his office.... » Daisym, posted by raisinb on April 27, 2008, at 17:58:43
Great thread.
I've always hated hated hated ending sessions with it's with a psychologist I like (there have been 2 of them). My last t commented on this once or twice, because I'd get upset when she said our time was up.
With my current t, I usually feel like I'm being rushed. I'm trying to put my stuff (notebook, pen, whatever) in my bad, then get my bag across my chest/shoulder (messenger style), and he's always standing at the door with it open. I wish he would wait to stand up until I'm ready to stand up too. As it is, I feel like he can't wait to get me out of there.
And I really hate the sessions ending with him. It feels like a dangerous time, where boundaries are more at risk of being crossed or violated. Not that anything has ever happened (to my mind) - it just feels like he wants to get away just so nothing ever could. Last week, I turned around to face him after I walked out the door to ask a question, and I felt like he had this look of alarm on his face.
During sessions if it's a room with a chair and a couch, he always takes the chair, leaving me the couch. Last week, there were 2 chairs and one couch, and I was really tempted to sit on one of the chairs instead. I guess I have a lot of problems feeling like he's the professional and I'm the patient. That's just not how I see this particular relationship. I think he knows this somewhat, and I think maybe it bothers him.
Anyway, great thread - I knew I wasn't the only one who has these thoughts about the little rituals surrounding going to/from offices, physical crossing of paths, etc., but it's great to read what others have to say.
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