Posted by sassyfrancesca on April 28, 2008, at 13:00:33
In reply to Re: Therapist is Testing me » Dinah, posted by Amanda29 on April 26, 2008, at 15:07:03
I am so sorry; are you aware that it is UNethical to abandon a client (unless the client is a threat to the t, etc., etc....)
They need a darn good reason, and he obviously has none.
What is up with that word "grace"??!!! Since when is it "grace" to abandon a client?!
I am so sorry; this never should have happened. Without a doubt, I am sure his divorce is causing problems in his being able to do good therapy (how could it not?!)
Obviously, HIS issues are getting in the way. This is simply cruel.
Of course he wants you (and I am sure you do) to be "autonamous"---that is the goal, BUT.....his treatment/abandonment and behavior is doing the exact opposite!!
Parents raise their children to be autonamous, and when they are ready they go out into the world.
In a sense he is parenting YOU, and instead of easing you out into the world, or waiting for YOU to make the decision if and when to leave (the client is the only one who knows when they are ready; a t should NEVER abandon a client);
He pushed you away.
Wrong and UNethical.
I am so sorry, sweetie!
Hugs, Sassy
P.S. He needs to hear exactly what you have said here.
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