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Re: should i walk away from therapy? » CareBear04

Posted by raisinb on April 16, 2008, at 9:38:17

In reply to should i walk away from therapy?, posted by CareBear04 on April 16, 2008, at 0:44:44

Yuck, that's a very difficult place to be in, and it sounds as if your T could be responding more sensitively. But from reading the post, I'd say he *does* think you're worth his time and effort and wants to work through this impasse with you.

I've been in the same place with my T many times. I once said to her, "I feel like I have to quit to communicate with you."

The problem is that quitting usually doesn't get you the response that you want, because even if the T does chase after you a bit, it's seldom enough to assuage how alone you feel, and it doesn't fix your own feelings of not being fixable or worth it (I might be reading you wrong, so apologies if so :)).

It also puts the T in a difficult position. However much a T wants you to stay, he has to respect your doubts, and he has to respect your decision to quit, even if he doesn't think it will be the best thing for you. They have to be very careful about letting their own desires override yours, even if the two might disagree. So even if him trying to get you back into therapy would help you feel more hopeful, he might not be able, ethically, to do a lot of it.

It might be tough, given your difficulty in trusting him, but a way to get around it is just to express what you want from him directly. Tell him you want to know that you're worth it to him, and see what happens. If you can't do that, maybe you could find a more indirect way to communicate it?


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