Posted by crushedout on April 4, 2008, at 11:08:43
In reply to Re: letter from T hurts, trying to move on fast, posted by Happyflower on April 4, 2008, at 5:58:32
thanks hf. i agree she is letting me know that the lines are open. it hurts because whenever you lose someone it hurts. and getting a letter like that is a painful reminder that (a) she exists and (b) she is only my ex-T and doesn't really care about me as a "regular" person might.
perhaps that is an "unresolved" issue, in that i always find it hurtful that i am not really *in* her life, that she of course loves her family more than she loves me. but i spent YEARS trying to resolve that issue and got NOWHERE.
so i have to disagree that i need to work it out with her or another T. i've had it with therapy. i'm done. it was NOT WORKING.
sorry for being so emphatic. i am just frustrated.
> It seems to me she is keeping the lines open in case you changed your mind and wanted to go back to her or that she can help you find another T. It seems like a good thing to me.
> I think the hurt your are feeling is because of unresolved issues that could be worked out with her in the termination process or with another T.
> Tare care crushed out, I know how much it hurts to leave therapy with someone you cared about even if it was for the best or maybe I am projecting here.