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Re: Did she call back? Dinah

Posted by crushedout on March 19, 2008, at 14:35:02

In reply to Re: Did she call back?, posted by Dinah on March 19, 2008, at 14:25:36


Oh. Right. Thanks, Dinah. Sometimes I feel so slow!

You are absolutely right that this is very emotionally charged for me. I have no idea what the "right" thing to do is, so I TOTALLY appreciate your input, just because you are not me, so you can be more objective, and I respect your mind, and also you know what it's like to be a long-term therapy patient.

Here's the thing: she has never been able to help me. She's made a couple mistakes in the past, and has taken responsibility for them, which made me respect her. They weren't huge mistakes, in the scheme of things (see, e.g., my last T). But she basically has simply been unable to really help me. And I just have a sinking feeling that if I stay something bad is going to get worse. And I also have a very hopeful feeling that if I quit therapy right now, that would be the best thing for me. It is ALMOST IMPOSSIBLE for me to know how much of this is motivated by the emotionally charged situation I'm in, though, you know?

In any event, what's the harm in taking a step back and letting myself cool off for awhile? I may or may not go back. But quitting isn't irreversible, is it?


> >
> > Wait. I'm confused. What isn't my only option?
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> You said
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> > Which is why I give up. I'm out. That's all I can come up with.
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> I was offering something else to come up with.
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> I hope you'll forgive me for saying this still sounds very emotionally charged for you. Which makes me wonder if it might not be a good idea to spend some time with her on the issue.
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> And what I was suggesting about striking when the iron was hot was that frank discussion is not easy when one or both parties are really angry, because it can turn into confrontation and defense rather than exploration.
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> But before I continue in this way, has your relationship with your therapist been a good one? Is she supportive and helpful in general? I realize she reacted badly to something you said. I'd find that very hurtful too. But did this happen in an otherwise good relationship? Or is it a symptom of an otherwise troubled relationship.


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