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Re: Distressed and depressed on several fronts Daisym

Posted by ClearSkies on March 14, 2008, at 9:38:06

In reply to Re: Distressed and depressed on several fronts, posted by Daisym on March 14, 2008, at 0:43:57

> My family has been through something similiar, many years ago. It took extreme measures to have my little sis finally get clean - and even after it has been a life-long need of hers for drama and attention. I often feel helpless to help - she doesn't really want real solutions, just momentary rescues.

This is what I sense my step daughter is after. She has these crises and doesn't really want to take a close look at what she's done to get there. She just wants the immediate fix, and then she goes right back to her chaotic ways. While she's looking for the monetary, emotional, or practical help, she'll say anything to give the impression that she'll comply with what's necessary in order to get it. Then, after a few days, she bolts back to the familiar, leaving us all poorer in every sense.

> So - I live MY life. I keep my children away from it. I try not too much of myself over to worrying about her.
> I know your situation is so much worse - and a child is different, no matter how old. But I think you need to begin to protect yourself and your life from the onslaught. Dreading the phone, knowing something else is about to happen must be very hard to live with every day. Is there anyway to give yourself "worry time" for a little while each day and then otherwise put it away?

I don't know how I can schedule worry time when the phone calls are random, but I would love to put the young woman entirely out of my thoughts at the moment. It's all pervasive.

> I'm sorry things are so tough. It must feel so hard to have this always hanging over you. I hope you get some relief soon.

Thanks, Daisy. I take comfort in your words.




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