Posted by MissK on February 20, 2008, at 18:33:16
In reply to *sigh* another fight--thoughts? *long, Tfighttrig*, posted by raisinb on February 19, 2008, at 12:50:20
I can't imagine getting into a fight with my T.
>that I'm just in there to convince her to be different, that I won't look at myself, that I'm just in there to put her down or beat her up.
Is there any truth to this? You have mentioned you do view her as an object to punish.
>Lately I have realized how angry I am about all the things she's said and done to hurt me
I presume you've talked about 'these things' - why do you think the anger lingers?
>--she's withdrawing, bursting into tears, and arguing with me constantly. but I am having trouble sorting out what is mine and what to do. Can this be right?
This is really strange. What's happened to the emotional distance / professional boundaries between you two?
Sounds like you two are not very good together, as therapist and client. Three years over what sounds like over-personalisation is a long time. I would consider getting a different therapist.