Posted by MidnightBlue on February 12, 2008, at 15:33:32
In reply to No wonder we never talk about that, posted by Dinah on February 12, 2008, at 12:09:45
Humm that must have been some item! Either very expensive or in his eyes very self-indulgent! It is wrong in my opinion to go into debt for charity. Charity should come "off the top" of what you have to spend, but it should NOT be something that prevents you from paying your rent or feeding your family. And it only really "counts" if you want to give it not because someone makes you feel guilty about not giving.
And a LOT of charity work can be done "behind the scenes" quietly working in a room. You don't have to directly interact with others. Think of an organization who needs help balancing their books or even just stuffing envelopes and addressing letters! Or how about sorting donated clothes or stocking food? Those things can have limited "face" time with others but still be very charitable.
Hang in there Dinah, it sounds like you both had a bad day!