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Re: Need a Second Opinion (Big Trigger+ Long)

Posted by raisinb on February 7, 2008, at 18:37:36

In reply to Need a Second Opinion (Big Trigger+ Long), posted by mair on February 7, 2008, at 17:53:28

Oh my goodness, that sounds so hard. I am sorry you have to encounter this.

For what it's worth, I often find myself yelling in my head (or at my T), "you SHOULD have done x, y, and z." Sometimes (not always) I come to the realization that even though she didn't do the right thing, she was *trying* to take care of me with what she did do.

My T has another therapist she consults with about me. She's told me a tiny bit about what he says and sometimes I feel I can tell that she's following his advice (I have no way of verifying this, of course). Usually, I feel abandoned and misunderstood. It's like she ignores what *I* say I need (and what she should *know* that I need)to follow some stranger's advice, someone who doesn't know or care about me, and who should not be trusted over and above me. I don't know, maybe that's part of it?

Beyond that, I can see how it would feel uncaring for her not to address something so big and difficult. I'd feel abandoned by that, too, and kind of blindsided.

It sounds like she was worried about it and tried to do her best, though she may not have done what was right in the end. I guess all you can do is keep processing the hurt feelings.

I wish you well in dealing with this.




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