Posted by rskontos on February 4, 2008, at 13:03:40
In reply to Delicate Topic may require a trigger for some as s, posted by Phillipa on February 4, 2008, at 12:38:05
No Phillipa, you are not weird.. To be told sex is bad I think causes you to define it that way. To redefine it as something pleasurable requires skilled help. I too have issues with it due to my childhood which I am only now getting to the bottom of which may ultimately show abuse. I am just not sure yet. I dissociated too much during my childhood to tell you what happened in it. I know I was a child everyone was a child at some point, that is all I can tell you. I do know sex and its components was always being discussed in our household and my grandparents as a bad thing. So I too got that impression. I can remember hearing my aunt saying "it hurt so damn bad you could not walk afterwards for several days. " And being a kid I took that literally. How is that for a great beginning thought on sex. "hey do you want to have sex with me, ugh no I want to walk for the next several days". and of course no one ever told me differently and I of course never told anyone what i heard. So things you are told when you are young really impact you.....of course I now know what she meant....took me years to figure that one out. I actually have parts of me that have the sex stuff, me I have nothing to do with it as I want to walk(lol and other messed up ideas I got as a kid)...how dumb is that...it is so messed up....
So no you are not weird, unless I can join you there? lol rsk
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