Posted by muffled on December 7, 2007, at 13:30:59
In reply to Re: push/pull VENT » muffled, posted by JoniS on December 7, 2007, at 13:19:03
> These days if I respond to your posts, it's like you already have me figured out. Thats no fun! Cant you just pretend that I give you deep, wise and profound ... priceless...etc feedback????
**Your feedback IS very good, thats why I 'get' it!!! LOL!
> My T's official sebatical dates are Jan-Mar. I have probably 2 more appointments. But... he's so thoughtful. He said he wouldn't abandon me, that it would be "unethical" so I could see him when he's on sebatical, but not once a week. Isn't that cool? I will try not to call him at all though. I don't want to be a pain the a__.*Wow, thats great.
Hmmm. It IS a bit of a minefield eh....
Darn T relationships are SO confusing!
I doubt he would consider it being a pain.
I would be inclined to think of it more as maintaining a connection. Cuz that IS important.
I think it would be EXCELLENT use of a session if you discussed and were VERY clear on the boundaries of contact here....
It would save you ALOT of grief....
I think you SHOULD keep in contact, and I think both you and your T need to be VERY clear on what form this should take.
Eg. Could you send him and email 1x/wk, just to let him know how you are? And would it be best if he sent a very brief reply so you knew he got it?
Or can it be more than that? Or would that be pushing boundaries?
Where are you going to get T type support while he is gone? Cuz you can't ask it of him, wouldn't be fair.
So I dunno. I may be being stupisly cautious, but in my own personal experience, it pays off. TALK lots about this to him. Bout how you feel about it, bout how you don't want to be a pain in the *ss etc.
T relationship is a big deal not to be taken lightly.
I hope I not piss you off, but I think this is important IMHO.
Or mebbe I fulla sh*t LOL!
Take care Joni
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