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Re: My thoughts today, maybe trigger warnings Happyflower 1 :-)

Posted by B2chica on August 23, 2007, at 8:31:53

In reply to My thoughts today, maybe trigger warnings, posted by Happyflower 1 :-) on August 23, 2007, at 6:41:47

(((((((HF)))))))))
i'm so sorry you are feeling this badly.
NO it was NOTHING you did...this is ALL on him! Got it HF?!
you did nothing wrong, being born was a gift for everyone you touch, i'm very very glad you are here. and if he is ANYTHING like your 'mother' you should have run for the hills a LONG time ago!

and i can't even imagine what was in his head that he said such a thing. though i think after 2 1/2 years you would have known earlier if he was just naturally calous...maybe something changed?
and to say after that amount of time that he wouldn't even care for you i would think would be a total lie. how can you know and talk to someone for that long and NOT care. there are people i work with that we never discuss more than general topics...but if something were to happen to her i'd care...
so maybe others were right in that maybe he was trying TOO hard to deny he had stronger feelings than he should have, maybe he was having a really horrible day and was just being mean...who knows.

but all i know is that therapy is about you, and that if you needed to dump him to continue productive therapy than i'm glad you did.
but i dont want you to blame this on you...you did or said NOTHING wrong. and i don't see how Anyone can be in a theraputic relationship and not care about their T. i mean this is the person that you create a safe attachment to, someone that will care about your pain and fears and help give you answers to your deepest questions...and we can't care about them?? are ya kidding?
we are HUMAN...NOT robots!
we form bonds with people around us...that's what we do.

and if he couldn't handle the relationship with you well, there were many other BETTER ways of dealing with that.
so i'd chalk it up to him being a total @$$ and just move on.
it won't be easy,, but you are really strong HF.

b2c



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