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Re: Maybe therapist wants distance from me too » LlurpsieNoodle

Posted by OzLand on August 8, 2007, at 20:00:59

In reply to Re: Therapist is going to be even more concerned n » OzLand, posted by LlurpsieNoodle on August 8, 2007, at 6:46:57

Yes I know about Judith Herman; when I was doing my postdoc at Menninger's and worked on the Trauma Recovery Unit (isn't that a crock!) she came to do Grand Rounds and consult re one of the patient's on the unit. I think she had just published 'Trauma and Recovery." Yes, I have the book.

I met with my therapist today, and he was of the opinion that going to this congregation that is fairly close knit, small (65 peopld) and trying to facilitate change when maybe they don't want it, is not wise. My husband was like a bull in a china shop, and he got zinked. I took things more slowly, even got on the Board, etc, and now I am getting zinged. My therapist thinks they probably want to keep things as they are and that we would be happier elsewhere. I think he is right. The group we were involved with likes to "talk," and I am used to UU's who put talk into action, i.e., live the seven principles.

So, I revealed some stuff today about csa as well, and then as has happend for the past month, I noted we ended 4 or 5 minutes early. Actually we started late and ended on time. I am his first patient of the day, and so I had not noticed anything until about a month ago when he was five minutes late getting me. He gets there at least a half hour before my appointment. Whether it was like this in May and June too, I don't know because I wasn't paying attention. After the time in July, I started to see if this was a fluke or not. It has been every session. Today it was 4 minutes late starting. So, when I got to work I sent him an email about it and said I was sure he was not aware that he was shorting me each time, but I said both he and I know this is not so simple as not being aware. He sent me an email back saying "THANK YOU for bringing up both the logistical problem and the associated emotional issues. I was unaware of not ending at 45 minutes, even if starting a bit late, so I will reflect on it and look forward to discussing it with you."

Now I wish I had not said anything because I am afraid he is going to say too that he doesn't want to be around me. Start late and end on time. I said to myself that it seems he really doesn't want to start but has to because I am there, and then he wants out of the session as soon as possible. I wrote him back and said I am afraid to discuss it with him as I am afraid of what he is going to say. I am afraid he will say I need to find someone else as my stuff is just too awful or complex or something. Maybe he is too buy and doesn't need to see me too. I have felt like I am getting the scraps and did not tell him that. One of the days we meet is Friday, and he is gone at least one to two Fridays per month. Sounds not good I think.

OzLand


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