Posted by ElaineM on July 22, 2007, at 11:36:52
In reply to IS traditions important d'ya think?, posted by muffled on July 21, 2007, at 23:13:43
Hi Muff, long time no see/read ;) I think that repetition/rountine is a stabilizing factor for kids. Like, when kids sometimes get the idea like, "hey, I know what's gonna come next", it can be comforting. But I don't think traditions have to be as formal as official gatherings or ceremonies. It can be the small things. Like, you make a certain meal a certain way, or take them to the same park, or watch the same tv show with them when it's on, or doing certain things when they're sick to make them feel better (soup, or sleeping with them, or giving them flat gingerale) and they know that when they're ill you'll be doing these things. Stuff like that. Do you have some small things like that? You probably don't even notice that you do them.
And I think that the fact that you're reading books about raising kids shows that you are a good mom. Not all moms would do that. Not all moms would care.
I think T's can sometimes help people change for the better, and that will spill over into other aspects of our lives (parenting, work, student, friend...) I suppose that's why I've done therapy. Hasn't worked in the best ways for me (yet?, or ever?) but I don't think I'm a worse person because of that.
I've been away a long time - I didn't know you stopped seeing your T. Did she move or stop practising or something? I still think she'd give you a referral either way. Sorry. She sounded like a good one.
(((Muff))) Hope your summer is going well.
blove, El
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