Posted by All Done on July 16, 2007, at 17:09:17
In reply to Re: I forgot to pay my T » All Done, posted by DAisym on July 16, 2007, at 15:14:52
> Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar. But sometimes not...
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> The classic interpretation is that you are withholding something symbolized by the payment. Or you don't want to pay him - because it "taints" the feelings somehow. (he should do this because he cares about you, not because it is his job, etc.)Generally, I don't think much about the money/paying him. At least I try not to. But maybe that's for exactly this reason. I don't want it to feel like he's just doing a job or something.
> There are theories on unconsciously wishing to pick a fight, or stir things up by altering the routine.Consciously, that's the last thing I want to do. It makes me so nervous when anything feels different in therapy. What my subconscious (did I use that correctly? Subconscious/unconscious??) wants, who knows. I did spend almost the entire session talking about a fight with my mom, which is pretty out of our (mine and my mom's) "routine".
> Personally, I'm in favor of the plain old, "I have too much to think about right now" explanation.
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> Awhile back I forgot to deposit my paycheck. I was having a really bad couple of weeks, and I just spaced it. My therapy payment was returned -- I was mortified. But he didn't make a big deal out of it, he said he knew where to find me. :(
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> Will you call him or wait for next time?I already emailed him (for the third time since Saturday afternoon - probably a record). One email was about losing my earring and I wanted to know if he'd found it in his office. I don't know where it fell off. He hasn't responded to any of them, yet, but I didn't request a response, either. I just apologized and told him I'll bring the check on Wednesday rather than mail it.
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