Posted by sunnydays on June 29, 2007, at 13:18:07
In reply to Re: Sometimes I feel so guilty...***trigger*** » sunnydays, posted by Squiggles on June 29, 2007, at 10:45:05
> Most important though, if you lose yourself
> as you say, one time, what makes you think
> that after your T shows you where you are,
> or who you are, you won't lose yourself again?
**** Well, see my T didn't show me where I was. He basically had me talk. And he showed me that I don't have to be sad all the time, that I'm not a bad person. I'm sure there will be short periods of time in the future where I lose a connection with myself. But I can then have the skills to reconnect with myself again. I am learning to become much more self-sufficient through therapy. And therapists offer only opinions, sure, but so do doctors and other health professionals too. Doctors make a diagnosis based on their opinions of what your symptoms are and what they think is causing them and design treatments around that. Sometimes they can be horribly wrong, like telling a woman she's too young to have a heart attack and it's just acid reflux, only for her to end up having a heart attack a few days later. Sure doctors may have more objective tests to make their determinations with, but all they offer are opinions. It's all anyone can offer, really.
> And is there really any meaningfulness to the
> concept of "losing oneself" except in states
> of disociation and psychosis?
**** Well, considering that I have PTSD and some dissociative symptoms, yes. When I went to therapy I said, "I'm not sure who I am, really," after the initial anxiety had abated a little. My T has done nothing but ask open-ended questions to let me explore who I am for myself. Sometimes he will remind me that I am kind or intelligent, but those are qualities I have already seen in myself and am too embarrassed to acknowledge at times.