Posted by muffled on May 24, 2007, at 15:11:36
In reply to Re: Sigh » muffled, posted by twinleaf on May 23, 2007, at 11:30:06
> This sounds so hard. Can you keep going, but let some of the toughest things calm down a bit while you strengthen what feels like you- and strengthen your connection to your T? I have become convinced that you can get feeling better by using the stronger parts of yourself in the relationship, and allowing the younger parts to connect up non-verbally- right hemisphere to right hemisphere- when you are relating well to your T. Some people think that the early parts of us which have been traumatized are never going to be totally verbal, and some aspects aren't going to be verbal at all, but they do take in everything about the tone of your T's voice, his (her) gaze, body language, and some estimate of whether they are feeling contained and cared about- that's really what those younger parts need and want. With the T I have now, so far, we have not gone into early abuse issues. But he knows they are there, and seems to be with me in such a way that I am feeling a bit more confortable and safe- about them and about him. I hope this can happen for you, too. What you are going through now sounds so terribly hard, and doesn't give any part of your brain a chance to rest or calm down.
**gee TL great post!
Really got me to thinking.
Its funny how you can't see the forest for the trees....
Babbles real helpful that way.
So thanks for that TL.
I dunno if we have met B4? But nice to meet you.
Yeah, giving my brain a chance to chill, cuz the youngers get everything SO riled. NOT shutdown youngers completely, but just give myself a break...
I gonna keep trying w/T I did phone her. I go next week. We'll see. I did show her some of these posts. Hope thats OK.
I also like the way you used the word traumatized, its broad, its good, and since I dunno what That inside kids prob is, its a useful word. Trauma being so subjective. Yup, sad, but good word.
Thanks, hope your T goes well for you too.
Muffled
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