Posted by pegasus on April 21, 2007, at 22:07:25
In reply to Another session with ex-T, posted by pegasus on April 19, 2007, at 22:15:43
I only have a moment, but I wanted to thank those of you who posted, and those of you who read, for being interested. The session was . . . um . . . good, I think. But very hard. In a nutshell, we talked a lot about anger, and we sort of went back to the first session after he told me he was leaving, and did parts of it over again. He told me a ton of good things about how of course I was hurt and angry, and that he was sorry. He said he was sorry a couple of different times in different ways.
At the end I finally choked out my question about how was his relationship with me unique, and what did he lose from that that was valuable to him. He said, "OK, we're going to talk about this again." Meaning, we need another session. So, I'm going to talk to him next week. I also made him give some kind of comment this time, before we said goodbye. He said that he thinks my question has to do with my sense of self, and that he understands that I want to know about how I'm not just in some category of "clients" for him.
Then he gave me homework, which is to practice asking that question again, and try to feel the feelings that went along with it. The idea is to practice being with difficult emotions, and learning about them.
Sigh. I felt heard and supported and basically valued by him, so it was definitely worth it. I think these three sessions are going to turn out to be very helpful.
peg
poster:pegasus
thread:751475
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20070419/msgs/752209.html