Posted by LittleGirlLost on April 15, 2007, at 0:08:22
In reply to Re: ......sigh..... transference » LittleGirlLost, posted by littleone on April 14, 2007, at 22:34:50
> I could be wrong, but it sounds like in a way you are waiting for you T to make it better for you. In this post it sounds like you are sitting and pining away for your T until the next time you can phone/see her. Note that I'm not saying that's a bad thing, I'm just asking if that's what your actions are.
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> I can't tell you what to do, or even what would best help you. But I know that for me things only improved when I learnt to accept that my T can't do this for me. That *I* have to comfort and nurture that young part.
>Hi littleone,
You may be right... not all the time, but tonight yes, I do have the feeling of wanting my T to rescue me and make it all better. I think I mostly feel that way when I feel the younger parts more strongly. And I know you are right in saying that I am the only one who can really comfort and nurture that young part, but honestly there are times when I really just don't want to; times when I feel nothing but jealousy and resentment towards it. Is that bad? Honestly though, I do have a hard time being nurturing (sometimes) to that younger part, when really I just feel jealous because noone was there to nurture me. Or maybe I just don't know how to? (I'm good with the fun stuff though!)Thank you for sharing your story with me littleone. I like what your T said about how easy it would be to give your the comforting and nurturing that you need. Yet I can see how him not doing it, rather having you learn it instead, is better for you in the long run.
So it's quite late here and I have to be up early for work tomorrow. Funny how whenever I have these (or any) terrible/uncomfy feelings, I stay up late with them; I probably should have gone to bed hours ago! Thank you babble friends for helping me through this; tomorrow is a new day (and one day closer till this vicious cycle starts all over again. sigh.)
g'night.
LGL
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