Posted by gazo on March 26, 2007, at 10:55:28
Morning Sugar! :o) I want to thank you for supporting me all weekend. I got the report in this morning... the reviewer won't be in today so it's up in the air. Until it's reviewed I still have a job. Probably one of the worst reports I have ever done. Yikes.
I wanted to discuss something with you but I didn't want to interrupt Penny's thread.
You talked about that biofeedback guy.. and Penny's T as well.. or T's in general I suppose. I have a beef with therapists(not with you) and the points you made reminded me of it. Don't you think it's a little unfair that they seem somewhat secretive? It seems like they want to keep it all mysterious. I mean, maybe T would introduce negative elements to shake someone's cage but it seems unnecessary if you've only just started. The part that bothers me is that we are all so uncertain of what they do that we have to sit and doubt ourselves because maybe their bad behaviour is a "technique."
I know we are supposed to question ourselves, I just don't see how it's helpful when it has to be mixed in with mistakes or bad judgement on their behalf. It seems wrong.
I wish they would just be more open about the process. I would be more willing to share and allow the guy to access my head if he gave me some idea why he might do or say certain things. How could I possibly know if an episode of anger from him is his problem or mine?
It's like the transference issue. How was I supposed to know that this happened and that I should examine what it was I was actually attracted to? He could have saved me a lot of grief. It's kinda presumptuous (sp?) on his part to think I trusted him enough to disclose it.
Of course, I am doubtful because and hour from now I will be sitting in my new T's office coming up with lots of reasons why I shouldn't trust him. ;o)
This was meant just a dialogue, not as a criticism or putting down of all therapists. I am interested in whether other people agree with how things seem to work.