Posted by Honore on February 6, 2007, at 10:42:55
In reply to Re: I feel upset, I'm manipulative, posted by Gee on February 6, 2007, at 10:02:30
Deneb, we all care about you a lot, because you have a very good heart.
You're a good person through and through.
These manipulations do not = "You"--
they are cries for help that don't work, because you've learned patterns of being with people that aren't helping you now, in new relationships outside of your family.
I'm sure these patterns were necessary when you were younger, and you learned them. Now it's very very hard to change-- but you're young, you CAN do this.
It's a struggle, with lots of ups and downs. But you can do it--because you want to. You work at it. And most important, as I was saying, you have a very very good heart.
Don't give up. Sometimes when you're about to make a change, it gets harder and all the old patterns suddenly rise up and seem so much more entrapping.
You do need a T, not a pdoc, who can't be reached outside office hours, and who doesn't encourage you to get DBT-- or some other type of in-depth therapy.
I hope you can tell your pdoc, in a way that she can hear that you --Deneb-- need an Therapist who specializes in Therapy, not a pdoc, as helpful as she may be.
You can do it.
Honore
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