Posted by pegasus on February 6, 2007, at 10:35:08
In reply to Disgusted with therapist boundary violaters, posted by lcat10 on February 5, 2007, at 23:22:58
I have sympathy with this point of view, because I can see in so many babble posts how vulnerable clients can be to Ts who would violate boundaries. There was a thread a couple of years ago about whether we would sleep with our Ts if they wanted to, and it seemed like maybe 75% of responses said yes! That's a lot of power that those Ts have.
And yet, I'm a little concerned, also, that the tone of this post will scare off posters who are clients of Ts who are doing boundary violations. Because usually they have strong attachments to their Ts. And I really value those posters a lot. And . . . I guess I also have some compassion for the Ts that end up in those situations. Yes, they've lost their way in terms of therapy, and yet it's such a common human failing that I can relate to via my own life mistakes. Also, it helps me believe in the realness of the therapy relationship to know that it can happen. But let me be clear that I don't endorse a T having a personal relationship with a client.
Sorry if this fans the flames. I guess I'm trying to say that I appreciate how incredibly hard it must be at times to keep those boundaries in place, and I respect the Ts who do it well. And I value the clients who are willing to share their experiences when the Ts don't do it.
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