Posted by ShortElise on February 5, 2007, at 13:58:38
In reply to Re: from Ms. Schmidt: therapist self disclosure, posted by widget on February 5, 2007, at 8:26:28
Ok, now I see.
If it were me, I'd print out that elqouent post of your and give it to him. You make very, very good points. Maybe if he reads what you have written, he'll get it.
Keep us posted, please. And take care of yourself. You're not crazy to call what you feel toward him as love - it's your emotion, and you can call it whatever you like. It might be a question on sematics, and he'd feel better if you said it differently, but I think you're right - it's up to him to be your therapist and to try to see your perspective. No, please, widget, don't negate your feelings.
In your first post, you said you needed to know if he loved you. You don't mention that here.
If you feel you are madly in love with him, want to have sex with him, make babies and live happily ever after, there's probably a lot of transference in there. I think that's pretty "normal". But that, as I've said before, is not the only way to love.
Again, keep us posted and take care.
SE
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