Posted by Daisym on January 28, 2007, at 23:30:25
In reply to Re: Thanks. Friends here are NOT confusing » Daisym, posted by littleone on January 28, 2007, at 22:27:43
I've been friends with this person for more than 21 years, she is one of my best friends, and we have a shared history that makes it worth working this out with her. It's funny because when I was talking to my therapist, I actually noted that it was more important to work things out with her than with my husband, from whom I'm separated. The hard part is that most, if not all, of my friendships have pretty much been "they need me" kinds of friendships. I've always been the steady one, practical and all that. I guess I'm the mom of the group. The past few years have shifted that, I can't be there for them as much as I used to be. And I'd like to reach out more, which I've been working on. I can do it for a little while and then I hide myself away again.
We talked some last night, she came over and brought the movie: Little Miss Sunshine. I had no idea what this movie was about! We talked about why I didn't think the end was "cute" like most people do - sexualizing a young child is not funny to me. My friend told me I was too sensitive, and I agreed with her. But I am, so there we are. It was a good jumping off point for a discussion though and I think she understands more why I've chosen this type of in-depth therapy.
Blah - it was hard though. I just want people to instantly understand and not challenge me on anything right now. I feel like the walking wounded.
Thanks for your reply. It helps.
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