Posted by sunnydays on December 29, 2006, at 13:47:56
In reply to Re: i miss him » sunnydays, posted by Daisym on December 29, 2006, at 0:31:18
> Of course you do. It is normal to miss people we care about when we don't see them for awhile. The more we care about them, the more we miss them.
**** Yeah. And thinking about that is weird for me, because then I start thinking about how I don't miss my family at all when I'm away at school. But there's reason for that.
> I think we also miss how they make us feel - safe, or warm, or happy or heard. When we are with other people who can do this for us, the missing doesn't hurt as much. When we are with people who don't do this for us, the missing is worse.
**** Yeah, I agree. And feeling any of warm, safe, happy, or heard does not happen in my family. I really miss that feeling of being with my T because he accepts everything about me so completely. It's so nice.
> So - what can you do to help yourself feel a little more secure and a little more taken care of? Your therapist would want you to be taking care of yourself. Can you write to him, journal or send an email? Even if you don't actually send it, sometimes having a conversation with him will really help.
****Yeah, I've been emailing a lot. He was going to check his email once during this week, but he hasn't. He probably forgot or got too busy, but I worry he got hurt or something. It does help some to email, except I start to worry when I think maybe he'll be mad when he sees how much I wrote. But he doesn't check his email unless he's at work, so I guess I'm not really interrupting his vacation.
Can you escape into a really good book, where you connect with the characters and feel good things through them? Movies can provide the same comfort and escape too. Try to sleep late and eat right and get out and walk a little every day. The weeks will go by and soon you will get back to your normal routine.
**** I'm trying to take care of myself as much as possible. It's hard though. I can't seem to get a minute of peace and quiet, though - something is always loud in my house. I'm sad.
> And keep posting. It always helps me when I'm feeling lost and sad.
***Thanks Daisy. I'll try. But it's hard for the words to come when I feel sort of trapped like this.