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Re: Staring us in the face Daisym

Posted by Racer on November 1, 2006, at 2:04:26

In reply to Staring us in the face, posted by Daisym on November 1, 2006, at 0:24:13

> He suggested that I call in and leave him messages and let him know how I am. And I could decide if I needed him to call me back or not. I'm resisting that suggestion, I think I'll take up too much time and space.

That's exactly what I was thinking as I read your post. "I wonder if he could ask her to call and check in over the weekend?" I think it's a great idea, for more than one reason.

The first reason is the obvious one: to help you get through the weekends.

The second, though, is to help you get over that thing about not wanting to take up space! (OK, I'm projecting, because that's largely why I don't call between appointments. I pay for my T's time for one individual session a week, and two groups a month. I "shouldn't" ask for more than that.) That's why I posted on Sunday about my nightmare -- because I did call my T, and leave a message about it. She's told me in the past that she thinks it's a good sign if I call, since it means I'm feeling more connected to her, to trust her more, to rely on her more. That thought is pretty scary for me, I almost couldn't type the R-word. You do trust your T, though, and you do rely on him. How about trusting him and relying on him over the weekends?

Do you remember Sparkling Bright? The intern I saw for a while after finally firing the Ts from that agency? She had me call and check in every weekend. If I didn't, she called me to find out why I hadn't. Ultimately, she wasn't the right fit for me, but that did help a lot when I needed it. Not so much because I couldn't get through the weekend, but because I didn't feel so much that I couldn't ask for help. I was scheduled to ask for help, you know?

In fact, when the new pdoc told me that if I had any trouble with the Zoloft I could contact him right away by email, I knew I couldn't -- and I really wished he would suggest that I check in on a schedule. I can't ask for it, but I wish it would happen.

I hope you can take your T up on it, Daisy, because I think it would help you -- and I think he does care about you enough to want to do it. Not to allow it, but to want it.
xoxo


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