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Re: Meeting a nurturing/mothering need » littleone

Posted by frida on October 17, 2006, at 23:00:52

In reply to Meeting a nurturing/mothering need, posted by littleone on October 17, 2006, at 15:26:05

I have the same need...

my mother never protected me when the abuse was happening and so I ached for a mommy and for that unconditional love and acceptance all my life.

i still haven't been able to find ways to self-nurture..but I've found certain things from people I care about do fill that need a little bit.

My T fills that need a little bit...though the little one in me wishes she could just hold me and let me rest on her lap for hours, i wish she could hold me and let me cry and just hear her say You are safe...I care about's ok...
like a mommy would comfort a child.
But she does fill that need a little..with caring gestures...and sometimes when she talks to me.

Another person in my life fills that need a little bit too. I have a physical T, that my T recommended. I've found myself crying and she has held me and rocked me and that truly made me feel as a little girl found in the moment after I was hurt. I feel like a little girl with her and I allow myself a little to be vulnerable, having her hold my hand and give me that kind of comfort is really soothing.

and self-soothing...I'd say it helps the little girl in me when I play with my pets or cuddle with them... and if i let myself play..make a jigsaw puzzle, make a drawing...things like that.

hope this helps a bit

and i hope you can find ways to nurture the little one in you that needs safety and love.





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