Posted by muffled on September 21, 2006, at 16:08:31
In reply to Re: Defective... » muffled, posted by pegasus on September 21, 2006, at 9:59:03
> You are right. I can see it for other people, but not for myself. But then . . . people always say that to love others you have to love yourself first. And I think, uh oh. Cause I really don't love myself. I'm such a pain in my own *ss. But it sure seems like I love some others. So I don't get that.
***Ya, I learning to love myself such as I am....
>
> For me, I think part of it is the ridiculing way my parents raised me, so that any time I started to think there was something good about me, they'd make fun of me, and put me in my place. I was taught that it's *not ok* to say (think?) anything good about myself. It was all about being super humble, which I think they thought meant always putting self down. It's screwed up and I'm teaching my daughter differently. She'll probably end up being really spoiled and arrogant. LOL.***I'm sorry Peg. Parents don't realize how much they hurt us. I hope I not hurting my irl kids :-(
Sometimes it just tears my heart out to think I've hurt them somehow....
Ya, my kids are kinda spoiled.
But I love them so much.
Thats why I want to be well, so I can be the best mom I can be.
Laughter is such a huge gift. HUGE.
Thanks Peg,
Muffled
poster:muffled
thread:687789
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20060911/msgs/687932.html