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Re: Termination talk today :( » happyflower

Posted by Tamar on August 10, 2006, at 17:29:57

In reply to Termination talk today :(, posted by happyflower on August 7, 2006, at 14:23:29

(((((Happyflower)))))

I agree, it can feel like a death. I remember so clearly how I felt when I terminated with my therapist, before I went back to him. And that’s the thing: I needed him again and he was there for me. But after the termination it felt really awful for a while. It really felt like a bereavement. But it did get better, and because I was no longer depressed I didn’t miss him every minute of every day.

Mind you, I still wonder if part of the reason it felt bad for me was my intense attachment to him, which I still haven’t talked about with him. And so the only advice I have for you (and of course you don’t have to take it) is: make sure you’ve told him everything you want to tell him. Make sure there are no loose ends.

And I can totally understand the thing about the gym membership. Having the idea of a remnant of security is really important.

> I know I am ready, so why am I acting like such a big baby? I don't want to say goodbye forever. I don't know if I can do it now. Plus he told me he wasn't sure if he was going to renew his gym membership. This was the thing that was going to make leaving easier, if I could still see him once in a while. Now it might be forever, forever. :( I think I will miss him too much.

I don’t think you’re acting like a baby. No one likes to say goodbye. But I think he’s right about planning it. Getting used to the idea of saying goodbye will prepare you for going out into the world on your own. It’s great that you’ve made so much progress! You have every reason to be proud of yourself.

Tamar


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