Posted by annierose on July 12, 2006, at 19:57:28
In reply to An Emotional Therapist, posted by Daisym on July 12, 2006, at 1:46:23
How are you doing today?
I think it's so hard to untangle our emotional lives from our cognitive mind. Your head knows that it is safe to share these secrets with your T. But your inner dialogue that has been playing in your head for years screams, "Don't trust grown-ups".
I'm thinking not only of your father, but your mother too. "Don't tell her" was what your father implied, "You'll get in trouble." As an adult we can see how twisted his thinking was on this matter. He was 100% to blame. You DID NOTHING WRONG! You as an adult can begin to see how it wasn't you, but that record has been playing for so long it is hard to change the tune.
Maybe sharing all these stories with your T is triggering the little girl in you that wanted to share with her mother, afraid of her reaction, what is she going to do with this information --- believe you or believe "him". Who is she going to protect? Who will she choose?
Your T chooses YOU! He wants to hear what happened to you. He wants to soothe your pain. He wants you to unburden your heart to him. What a gift he is receiving from you, your complete love and trust in him.
I hear in your voice a stronger Daisy. You may not hear it yet, but you are. I hear it all the way over here and you are ready to share these stories with him now. And he is ready to listen.
That is therapy at its best. I'm glad he is in your life. I love him for being there for you.