Posted by ElaineM on June 30, 2006, at 20:30:58
In reply to Re: Accepting mistakes » Deneb, posted by curmudgeon on June 30, 2006, at 18:33:26
Deneb*: Hi, I haven't met you yet. The thing I find is that people usually post what they are passionate about, and subjects come loaded for each person way before anyone else says anything. And I guess part of the thing that makes online stuff difficult is that words are such touchy things, especially without a voice or a face to verify interpretations with.
I for one am very triggered by conflict, or confrontation - to the point of feeling paralysed, so I can understand your fear about not posting, or avoiding sides in differences of opinion. And in a jam, my words tend to disappear anyways - brain freeze. Or anxiety overwhelms me and I can never get my words to match my intention, and sometimes end up hurting those I intended to help. And the best I can do then is offer more words to smooth things over :)
I guess with the internet I try and give others the benefit of the doubt in terms of intention. It's a tough one.