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Re: I just really wish

Posted by Tamar on June 30, 2006, at 20:00:32

In reply to I just really wish, posted by crushedout on June 30, 2006, at 18:03:41

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> that I could keep my wits about me when I was mad. Stay super calm, and say exactly the right thing to cut the person down without losing my cool or resorting to name-calling.

If you figure it out, let me know! I get all shaky and my lower lip trembles. I look like Im about to cry.

> I wish I could do that. I'm terrible at it. I can't see straight once I get mad.

Me neither. One thing I have found that works very well is to use big words. Stuff like Oh do be quiet, you ridiculous woman seems to be more effective than Shut the f*ck up, you total *ss-face. Make sure you sound very superior, and as calm as possible. Calmness will win the day.

Im a convert to having just one phrase that you can practice rather than trying to think on your feet when youre feeling agitated. If you can say, I dont talk to rude people; go away, every time someone is rude to you, youll get used to saying it and it wont be so difficult to find something to say.

I reckon rude people are usually looking for a fight, and nothing frustrates them as much as not giving them one. Im a b*tch, eh?!


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