Posted by Deneb on June 30, 2006, at 17:03:45
Do you ever find yourself wanting to contribute to a thread, but not contributing because you don't want to take sides and possibly put someone into defense mode?
This happens to me. Sometimes I agree or disagree with certain arguments and ideas, but I don't speak up because I don't want the conflict. Sometimes people get defensive when they interpret differing ideas as an attack on them personally and not just ideas.
I think we should all learn to do that, separate differences in opinion from personal attacks. Just because I disagree with you doesn't mean I'm attacking you personally. I think we should also learn to accept that we can be wrong. Our self esteem shouldn't be tied up with being right all the time. I think accepting our mistakes and considering others' ideas is important in learning.