Posted by Daisym on June 25, 2006, at 1:59:04
In reply to Re: CSA lecture - trigger » Daisym, posted by All Done on June 24, 2006, at 3:21:15
We had the option at lunchtime of eating with our peers or stepping out. I stepped out and bought a tote that says, "If the shoe fits, buy an outfit to match!" :)
I learned such amazing things about healing that are biologically tied and make perfect sense. I just wish the speakers weren't so casual with their stories and language. One of the things that stayed with me is that this speaker believes that most therapies are "biologically disrespectful" meaning they don't acknowledge the need for relationship above and beyond everything else. Our basic biology programs us to need 30-40
"tribesmen" or our clan, but we live in environments that are relationally impoverished and most therapies are focused on making us independent, not interdependent. The other thing that was fascinating was that trauma actually creates changes in the brain stem--so in order to promote healing you have to break through to this part of the brain. And what does the brain stem want? Attachment, attachment, attachment. (OK...and air, food and water.)I called my therapist last night, just to check in. I think my message was "I'm OK. OK, I'm not OK. But I'll be OK. Don't worry, OK?" And I said he didn't have to call me back, I was touching based like we'd agreed. He left a message for me this morning and said, "Any message that has 5 OKs in a row needs follow up." And then he said a bunch of other grounding things. We didn't connect but it was OK -- I like having the message.
And little daisy is quiet tonight and tired. I think "she" has been hypervigilient for three days straight and is glad to rest now. Poised for flight -- that "run away" response. I've been thinking about that. As a young child I couldn't run away but now I can. I just have to remember that i can. i still want to immediately freeze.
Thanks for all the support.
love and hugs,
Daisy.
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