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Re: I posted on the substance abuse board Ľ Tamar

Posted by crushedout on June 24, 2006, at 13:51:01

In reply to Re: I posted on the substance abuse board Ľ crushedout, posted by Tamar on June 21, 2006, at 19:45:31


> I can understand the sabotage thing; I do a lot of that. In my case itís because I donít believe Iím really capable of living up to other peopleís expectations, so if I seem to be doing well I try to do less well so that people wonít expect more than I feel able to deliver.

I do the same thing. I think maybe that's tied up with the fear of success thing, too? Like, maybe that's part of why we fear success? Expectations will be raised that took many years of hard work to lower.


> Thatís unfortunate. I donít knowÖ I havenít seen a lot of judgement here.

I don't think it's often overt, but I can feel it.


> However, if people urge you not to use drugs, I hope theyíre talking from a deep concern for you rather than from a sense of judgement.

I think most people are. But not my stepmother, which is really unfortunate.


>I know Iíd be happier if you werenít using. But I canít possibly judge you because I use (alcohol) and I donít see that thereís much difference between alcohol and most illegal drugs. And Iím a smoker too, so I know all about addiction!

Really? Well, then you do. I agree there's not much difference between alcohol and most illegal drugs. When I talk about "drugs," I'm usually including alcohol, actually. When you say you "use" alcohol, though, what do you mean? And how much do you smoke? (if you don't mind talking about it)

Your insight and concern have helped me a lot, Tamar, thank you!

crushed


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