Posted by crushedout on June 24, 2006, at 13:51:01
In reply to Re: I posted on the substance abuse board » crushedout, posted by Tamar on June 21, 2006, at 19:45:31
> I can understand the sabotage thing; I do a lot of that. In my case it’s because I don’t believe I’m really capable of living up to other people’s expectations, so if I seem to be doing well I try to do less well so that people won’t expect more than I feel able to deliver.I do the same thing. I think maybe that's tied up with the fear of success thing, too? Like, maybe that's part of why we fear success? Expectations will be raised that took many years of hard work to lower.
> That’s unfortunate. I don’t know… I haven’t seen a lot of judgement here.I don't think it's often overt, but I can feel it.
> However, if people urge you not to use drugs, I hope they’re talking from a deep concern for you rather than from a sense of judgement.I think most people are. But not my stepmother, which is really unfortunate.
>I know I’d be happier if you weren’t using. But I can’t possibly judge you because I use (alcohol) and I don’t see that there’s much difference between alcohol and most illegal drugs. And I’m a smoker too, so I know all about addiction!Really? Well, then you do. I agree there's not much difference between alcohol and most illegal drugs. When I talk about "drugs," I'm usually including alcohol, actually. When you say you "use" alcohol, though, what do you mean? And how much do you smoke? (if you don't mind talking about it)
Your insight and concern have helped me a lot, Tamar, thank you!
crushed
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