Posted by Racer on April 25, 2006, at 18:59:42
In reply to Re: Ridiculous, posted by starloree on April 25, 2006, at 17:20:12
And I could easily be wrong.
Could he have been trying to redirect you from the specific to the general? For instance, in one marriage counseling session, my husband and I managed to get bogged down about how he set the table for breakfast! It was a flash point for me, and it drove me crazy that he didn't pay any attention, didn't care, etc. And the whole time our MC and my husband were talking about that, I was sitting there seething, and thinking -- "there's a larger issue here..." After all, in the larger scheme of things, it probably doesn't really matter whether the knife blade faces the plate or not, or if the fork is on the right. But what does matter, is that I feel as though someone hears me when I speak. (Obviously, same goes for my husband. And I do try to listen to him.)
So, that would be my question. Could you have been so focussed on the specific issue you were discussing that you couldn't see the larger, more general issue(s) involved?
Hope that helps.
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