Posted by orchid on April 17, 2006, at 18:33:51
In reply to ethics/laws? and a bunch of, er, babble, posted by shrinking violet on April 17, 2006, at 18:21:15
I don't think your ex T stopped responding to you because of ethical rules or reasons.
If it is unethical to continue contact post therapy, it is even more unethical to let a patient suffer, and knowing full well that she caused you this suffering in the first place, and not doing anything to make it easier for you.
I don't think it has as much to do with ethics as it has to do with irresponsibility and recklessness. Your ex T was a bit of a jerk in the way she terminated you, and though she might have been a good person otherwise, and generally means well, that doesn't change the fact that she knowingly caused you this suffering, and didn't apologize or take any action to make it better.
You don't have to hate her for it, but acknowledging that she was very highly irresponsible and that it was her fault, will help you move on. I still have regards for my first T and think good of him, but at the same time, I realize how irresponsible and reckless he was in terminating me like that. And that knowledge helps me move on, but at the same time I still have gratitude towards him for all his help.
And no, there is no hard coded rule which says there is to be no contact post termination. If there was, then, that rule is wrong.
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