Posted by gardenergirl on March 31, 2006, at 14:04:37
In reply to Re: One kind of funny thing » Daisym, posted by All Done on March 26, 2006, at 14:08:33
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> This is exactly how I feel. I haven't cried in session in a very long time, but yesterday, I told my T that I think I want too much. As soon as I said it, the tears came. I really feel like I'm asking for too much and it must be what pushed or pushes people (my parents? schoolmates?) away from me.
>You know, when I read this, I was reminded of your mother. I wonder if the difficulty you have in feeling as if you want too much from people is related to that. She wanted more than a child could give (if I remember correctly) and still wants a great deal of your time and attention. So you know the burden of someone asking too much of you. Of course you'd be sensitive to not wanting to "inflict that" on others.
And you also know the void from never getting enough, I would guess. That's so painful. And it feels like it will always be a deep well. At least it has to me. When I start to feel selfish, greedy, or too "needy", my T reminds me that there was never enough to go around when I was a kid (not material things, but love and attention), and it makes sense that I would feel like I need to "grab it" when I can.
Does any of this resonate?
And since I feel privileged to call you my friend, I thought I'd share with you my perspective that you've never asked me too much or seemed too needy. In case you worry about that....
((((Alldone))))
gg
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