Posted by Tamar on March 11, 2006, at 17:43:40
In reply to So stupid, posted by muffled on March 11, 2006, at 13:50:58
> Lately, I haven't had much probs. w/ seeing T once a week. In between its ok. I wouldn't normally see her till Tues anyways. I not that bonded. Just cuz she on holiday I'm spazzing? How dumb is that? I tried to be real fine on last appt. and sent a nice fax so she would think I so fine and then she wouldn't worry none bout me. Proly she doesn't anyways.
> I'm rambling......suppose I just want some pity......
> Sad sack.
> MuffledI don’t know about you, but I like to be able to imagine my T in his usual place. I can get through a week or two without seeing him as long as I know where he is (in general terms; I’m not stalking him!). So I imagine him in his office and I know I could call if I really had to, and I feel safe. But the idea of him being somewhere else and out of contact is really scary. I worry: what if he doesn’t come back? I try to imagine him in his office but I know he’s not there. It’s extremely unsettling.
I can understand the thing with the pretending to be fine so she won’t worry. And that makes sense in just about every other relationship. But maybe if you’d told your T you weren’t fine about her going on holiday she could have found ways to help you to cope with it. Y’know… just like when our kids are little and we leave them with a babysitter or grandma or whoever, and they cry and we tell them we’ll be back. And they don’t like it, but ideally they have toys to play with and stuff like that to distract them until we get back. And we always do come back, don’t we? Just like your T will always come back to you.
Do you think you’ll be able to tell her about these feelings when she gets back? Do you believe that the more you trust her the more she’ll try her best to be the therapist you need?
Big hugs,
Tamar
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