Posted by Shortelise on February 23, 2006, at 12:31:04
In reply to Re: I need some help -- trigger, posted by Daisym on February 15, 2006, at 23:23:03
Were you crying from relief? To have such things confirmed, your rights in a relationship, your needs in a relationship, confirmed as acceptable and real, jeepers, who wouldn't cry? He threw you the lifeboat of reality checks - hop on board.
You chose a man who makes demands that you pacify with sex. Manipulates you to trade sex in order to get what you need. But did you do it intentionally? I think not. So where did it come from?
Daisy, is this a crux of things for you, is it a place from which a lot of your pain springs? Do you think that if you wade through the muck of this, this you might have to leave your marriage? Afraid that to be well could mean understanding that in your marriage you cannot be well?
This is all so hard. I feel for you so very much.