Posted by LegWarmers on February 22, 2006, at 8:43:12
In reply to Re: on knowing 'too much' about your T, posted by Dia on February 21, 2006, at 13:26:31
> I have always had the theory that anybody can read anything you write or put on the internet, even if you think it's all 'secure' and everything.
of course thats possible, I suppose thats why people most often will choose a posting name that isnt thier real name, for privacy, yeah? And I doubt many people tell people thier posting names.
>Aside from hacking, people might forward your messages to somebody else or they could be read by someone you didn't want it to be read by,
I would hope that nothing personal that I emailed to a friend would then be forwarded on, as far as Im concerned that violating.
> if the person you meant to send your e-mail to has someone sitting right next to them or says 'hey come here and read this'... The bottom line is that I compose all my e-mails as if someone else was going to read them. Even in instant message conversations, I censor or watch what I say. It's harsh but I always thought that if someone was stupid enough to write out something really personal on the internet, then it's their own fault if they end up feeling 'violated' because somebody else read it.
That must be difficult not to trust people, is that what you mean? The situation for me was that I have given out my banking password. email password, and more... if I needed someone to do something for me when I wasnt able to get to a computer fast enough. What I was sayiyg is, Ive never changed my passwords to anything else until reading this thread. Hopefully my friends are trustworthy people who respect me, but reading this made me feel nervous that over the alst year a few people could have been seeing my personal stuff, aside from email, WHICH even thoguh is accessable through the net as everything is, it DOES not make then in any way open to public. My friedns have done the same with me, I have been given thier pws to do stuff.... but I dont even remember what they are, even if I did, I have never ever had the desire to check if they changed them.
> I really am trying to not look as much at his stuff and I thought of some reasons for why I do it. I get really jealous. If I found out he was emailing with another client or even seeing another female client around my age I would be furious. I'm also jealous of his wife, we've met and she definitely does not like me. I was also trying to find things I disliked about him so I could stop thinking he was so wonderful but unfortunately that didn't really work. But I would never ever delete any of his e-mails, read them before he has or try and sabotage his account.
I hope you tell him, it does sound scary to me and the one who will get hurt the most is you if he ever found out and my guess is that it will make you more paranoid in the long run.