Posted by Rigby on February 21, 2006, at 10:10:49
In reply to Add on, posted by orchid on February 21, 2006, at 9:03:39
What you said and are saying here again completely resonate with me. Good to clarify though and it's also an interesting discussion to have. I believe the same thing--that therapy has been hugely helpful by opening me up and getting me to build my outside world. I think it's tricky though because when you are hurting and vulnerable it's easier to want to *just* become completely involved in therapy and with your therapist--at least it was for me. A good therapist will steer you away from that--will encourage and be positive about new connections in your life--will *not* want to be your only confidante, etc. A book I read called, "When To Say Goodbye To Your Therapist" was really helpful in making these types of points.
> Since people seem to be interpreting it to be that I was saying therapy or therapists are not helpful at all - that is not what I was saying.
> What I was saying was therapy and therapists alone will not make some one happy. And that overwhelming and complete dependance on therapists is wrong.
> It needs to be augmented with other changes and social networks etc. I have immensely benefited from therapy - but not when I was dependant on therapy and therapist alone. But when I finally combined what I learnt from therapy with other positive things in life.