Posted by happyflower on February 17, 2006, at 17:17:47
In reply to Re: I won't let my T leave me, nope, never ever » happyflower, posted by Voce on February 17, 2006, at 16:16:52
yes, but I think it isn't a happy marriage based on stuff he has said.
I don't think I want to marry the guy, I just want to have a social friendly relationship with him where we can talk about our common interestes over coffee. Nothing too deep or personal, not therapy, just light topics of interests. I just want to meet like once a month and keep in touch with each other.
1/2 of my session are not like therapy anyways, we are just chatting. Now yes, I do need social practice,(which could be what you call that we do), but I do think he gets something out of it too because we talk about his stuff too. (almost equal his stuff, my stuff) He is mainly helping me with "support" of enhancing my life. The bad stuff from he past is mostly dealt with. I have a marriage plan. Now it is just how to make the most out of my life (even in an unhappy marriage).
We have chemistry, we like each other, we enjoy each others company, we have a lot in common, and we care about each other, we could talk for hours and the time would just fly by.
I know the ethics rules, and he is ethical, but there is a window for therapists and clients to have a outside relationship after therapy. He says he won't have a social relationship with me after therapy, but I don't believe he means it. Plus I have read that they ethically have to say this anyways DURING therapy. So I guess I won't know anything 100% till after I am done (which is in the very near future, (early summer).
I am willing to follow the rules.